How to Ruin Your Marriage

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How to Ruin Your Marriage: Who wins? (pt 1)

April 28, 2019 – Jon Silva

Most everyone has great dreams and high expectations about what their “ever after” will be. But then… you actually get married.There is no quick fix, magic actions, no one sentence formulas, that will give you a perfect marriage. So what if we looked at some of the subtle, deep rooted causes for ruined marriages instead? During this series, we’ll talk about 4 common ways we ruin our marriages, and how to avoid them. But first let’s look at the common denominator in all of our marital, and really our relational troubles, and see what Jesus has to say about it.

How to Ruin Your Marriage: We’re out of control! (pt 2)

May 5, 2019 – Jon Silva

Control weakens trust and inhibits communication. It can also be clear sign that you place more value on what you want than on your spouse / relationship. In part 2 we explore what causes controlling behaviors in relationships and look at some heart and habit changes to help encourage letting go.

How to Ruin Your Marriage: It’s not supposed to be this way! (pt 3)

May 12, 2019 – Jon Silva

We carry big dreams into our relationships, and especially marriage. Then we hand them off to our spouse expecting them to fulfill them. But the moment we do that, they are no longer hopes and dreams… they are expectations: The way you think things are ‘SUPPOSED TO’ be. In Part 3 of this series we look at how to avoid turning your relationship into one big debt contract. Because a great marriage expects nothing and owes everything.

How to Ruin Your Marriage: Hold On (pt 4)

May 19, 2019 – Jon Silva

It’s subtle but deadly. It can start even before you’re married. It’s like rust: it slowly eats away at your relationship, happiness, and life until they are unrecognizable. This week one of the easiest ways to ruin your marriage: Holding on to hurts. Unforgiveness. Discover with us a simple and necessary method for holding on to what’s truly important and always believing the best.

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  1. Have you ever experienced God coming through for you or someone else, or heard a story about God coming through that inspired you? What happened?
  2. Take some time and read what Jesus said in John 15:1-17. What stands out to you as it relates to this week’s message?
  3. What difficulties do you foresee with “pray, listen, and show up” for you? How can your group support you in this?